She Didn’t Take Him, He Left…


She Didn’t Take Him, He Left…

In our culture, we have a tendency to blame a woman for ‘taking our man.’ When your men steps outside the relationship, our target is almost always the other woman, but let’s be frank here, if he didn’t want to go he wouldn’t have. In short, she didn’t take him, he left!!
I am no expert on relationships but with the little knowledge I’ve gathered through experiences and healthy discussions, I’ve come to the realization that you can’t force a man to do something he doesn’t want to. He may or may not be the aggressor, but had he no inclination then no amount of pressure could make him surrender. If something is not apart of your character and you have absolutely no desire, then peer pressure is not your shortfall.
Too often we attack other women for stepping in our relationships, walking in to our marriages and leaving with our partners. The questions I have are: Why was the door left opened in the first place? If she knocked, why did he answer? If the door was left open, who opened it? If that same door was kicked in, why wasn’t it strong enough? Better yet, are we sure our relationships have doors? Hmmmmm
Steve Harvey in his book “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man” said men cheat because there is someone to cheat with. The blame should NOT be placed on any one person because it takes two to tango. If you feel the need to address another woman about your relationship, then have that same conversation with your spouse. One hand can’t clap! We need to stop with this nonsense of pitting women against each other because of something a man willingly participated in.
No man is held against his will and forced to step outside his relationship, and if that were indeed the case, then that’s a matter for the courts. But under normal circumstances, if you dangle a bait and a man latches on then he is just a guilty as you are, and should be subjected to the same ‘punishment.’ It’s rather ridiculous for women to be fighting each other, accusing each other and belittling each over theft, when the product was left on the open market.
God forbid your partner should be unfaithful, please remember that he wouldn’t have stepped out if he didn’t want to. She didn’t take him from you, he left on his own.